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Making friends and keeping them

Children need to know how to deal with the words or actions of others.  At Aldwyn pupils are empowered to deal with other people effectively.


Tips for Making and Keeping Friends


Friends are made through kind words and actions, not through their fear of 'not belonging'.  Friends should not be collected as trophies or given up without care or thought.


It is OK not to like another person.  This is your opinion.

It is best not to tell them or to tell any other pupils.


It is OK to tell a person that you don't like their words, actions or body language.  By doing this the person knows how they have upset you and might try to change.



It is better to say:



Avoiding upset (face to face or on the internet etc.)


If you ask someone

"Who is your best friend?" or "Are you my friend?"

Their answer might upset you.

You can tell if someone is your friend if they speak kindly to you and spend time with you.


If someone asks

"Who is your worst enemy?"

Try a reply like this:

"I don't have an enemy."  Even if this is not true!

"I won't discuss it with you because my answer will upset someone."


If someone asks you to pass on an unkind comment or message then tell them:

"I don't want to say that."  Or "I won't pass on your message because it will upset someone."


If these things are hard to say then get a friend to help by standing next to you.  Don't ask your friend to say things for you because this is asking them to pass on a message.


Top Tip!